Parents of three are getting divorced – so that their girlfriend won’t get jealous.Now either Cristina, 31, or Benno, 37, will marry their 21-year-old lover, Sierra Kuntz, so that all three will have legal rights to their children.
Benno, a legal assistant, said:
“Cristina and I decided this was something that needed to be done in order for Sierra to understand the depth of how much we love her and want her to be part of our family.
“The benefits of one of us marrying her are going to be on many different levels.“She is going to be legally considered a parent to the children and, more importantly, it will show her that this is not a temporary thing, we both love her and it’s something that’s meant to be permanent.”
Cristina and Benno met in 2005 when they were both serving in the US military police.
They married four months later and a year into their marriage they had their first child, Isaiah, now 11, and later, Rebecca, seven, and Brianna, six.
“I was worried that I would be disposable and that this was a phase they were going through.
“But when I spent time with them I realised what they wanted and felt this was a situation I could work with, so I jumped on board.”
The relationship progressed and the three decided to take the next step in their ‘three-lationship’.
And Benno says that the sexual side of the relationship is also equal – and adventurous.
He said: “We share a bed together, we share everything together, so since we met Sierra we have not had a night that we don’t all involve each other in some sort of sexual activity.
“It’s busy. There are lots of hands everywhere. The beauty of what we do is that we can have a very active sexual life and it’s completely safe and it’s with people that we love.
I don’t ever have to worry about having a boring sex life 20 years from now when other couples or monogamous couples are. We have a lot of intimacy between all three of us.”
Since moving into the family home, Sierra has become the main caregiver for the trio’s children, staying at home while Benno and Cristina go out to work.
Benno said: “We had talked to our children before this and let them know we wanted to adopt someone and bring somebody into our relationship. Our children have been very supportive of this. They have understood.”
The trio admit they have problems like any other relationship.
Sierra said: “There is really not jealousy in our relationship. Sometimes we have a hard time communicating because there are three people instead of two, but we always work through it.
“We share all of our feelings with each other and we don’t hold anything back.
“Everything is equal, so there is nothing to be jealous of. We are very happy with all three of us together.”
He added: “This lifestyle isn’t for everyone. There are a lot of people that are monogamous and are happy with just being with one person and that’s completely fine.
“Every one of us is different. But before you judge, take a look at our lives and see the benefit of it. I couldn’t imagine my life any other way.”